An Ode To My Father

John Crawford Collin Street Bakery
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A Father’s Account of Father’s Day

Every year, on the third Sunday of June, we celebrate Father’s Day. It’s a yearly tradition that started in the early 1900s, a few years after Mother’s Day. Better late than never, as a typical dad would say.

Ever since the establishment of this day, dads have been gifted ties and socks by their adoring children. These “gifts de jours” admittedly fall short in embodying the thankfulness they’re intended to represent. Partially to blame is the tie. How much gratitude can a tie really convey? The rest of the responsibility ironically falls onto dads, who are just too selfless to really ask for anything they need or want. So, they are gifted golf balls, ratchet sets, and bbq tongs. Things kids think, ‘Hey! Dad might like this.’ And honestly, we dads don’t mind. We’re pretty easy like that. We’ll wear the ties, use the golf balls, and fondly smile and think of our kids when we do.

 

It’s funny how holidays like Father’s Day can be viewed with a mix of thoughts and feelings. An opportunity to some and an obligation to others, Father’s Day is admittedly seen as sort of a lowercase ‘holiday’ in comparison to uppercase ‘Holidays’ like Christmas or Thanksgiving. Honestly, the true significance of Father’s Day isn’t fully felt until one becomes a dad themselves or loses their dad. Then the gravity of a father’s worth hits home.

 

For me, from here on out, Father’s Day will have a whole new meaning. You see, early in 2020, my Dad passed away peacefully. God reached down and gently took him home at the tender age of 87. As I traveled through life, I came to see him as more than just my father. Yes, he was my dad for 64, almost 65 years, but he was more than that. He was my friend and mentor for the past forty years and my business partner here at Collin Street Bakery for the past fifteen.

 

As everyone will tell you about their dad… mine was the best. He really was! Dad never spoke ill of anyone. He never got mad; I know that sounds ridiculous, but I really never saw him lose his temper. He was generous to a fault and always had a compliment to give. He never said, “I told you so”, even when he was called to get me or one of my two sisters out of a bind.

 

He was filled with golden nuggets of sage wisdom, like "Always strive to be a gentleman,” and "Never say an unkind word,” or “Give your best.” Pretty standard advice, but he also gave more personal tips, like “Silence can never be misquoted,” or “Expect nothing and you will never be disappointed.” In fact, Dad had a few sayings he quoted so often, he simply reduced them to acronyms in order to expedite the potency of the lesson. Acronyms like “LIA,” which stood for “Leave it alone.” This was his mantra often solicited as a warning against messing around in other people’s business. Another was, “NTW,” or “Not to worry.” Both phrases were very profound - sounded simple - but were far easier said than done.

 

As Father’s Day draws nearer, I’ve been reflecting on the role a father plays in their children’s lives. A father impacts us in ways we can’t even imagine and often in ways children fail to fully appreciate… until it’s too late. A dad not only shapes the way his kids view the world but also changes their perception of relationships, work, love, spirituality, curiosity, kindness, and more. A dad’s influence extends to how his sons might treat women, or what traits his daughter might seek in a man. Sometimes the realization is immediate and sometimes it’s delayed, but the actions of a dad are undeniably significant—they help shape us and mold us into the person we are today.

I miss my dad more than words can say.

I miss his wisdom, his viewpoints, and his voice. Sometimes, I reach for the phone or drive instinctively into his neighborhood, and then I remember. I still often glance into his now-vacant office before stepping into my own. When I catch myself doing these things, I think about him with a smile and a twinge of pain. He’s forever gone from this life and he will be sorely missed. But in his wake, he left behind a wonderful legacy. He was loved by many and respected by all here at Collin Street Bakery, our community, and our town.

 

So bearing this in mind, I leave you with these parting words of advice. This Father’s Day, let’s honor our dads with our admiration and deepest appreciation; heed their wisdom, laugh at their jokes, and enjoy their company. If you can, give them a huge bear hug and hand them all the golf balls and ties. If you can’t, cherish their memory and give thanks for them and all they did in your thoughts and prayers.

- Hayden Crawford | Partner, Collin Street Bakery
May 10, 2021
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Mr Thomas Check
June 4, 2021 at 11:48 AM
Well said Hayden . Heartfelt thanks for sharing this , he would be proud of you. Remember..... all the love . Kindest and Best Regards
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Collin Street Bakery
June 7, 2021 at 3:37 PM
Thank you so much for these kind words.
Jan
June 4, 2021 at 12:04 PM
So true & so beautifully said. I lost my Dad the end of the week of 9/11. A truly sad week even before that Saturday but I know I’ll see him again 1 day. I also had a great father in law. Called him Dad also. Knew that he didn’t always see my viewpoint but he was always there to support me when needed.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:37 PM
Thank you. We are so sorry for your loss.
Carol
June 4, 2021 at 12:14 PM
Wonderful account and tribute to our dads and our children's dads.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:37 PM
Thank you!
Patricia Lewis
June 4, 2021 at 1:37 PM
Now I know why your fruitcakes are the best in the world...they are made with love and tradition! Your fathers greatest gift was the memories and love he left you!
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:36 PM
Thank you SO much!
Simon
June 4, 2021 at 5:52 PM
Very well written tribute.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:18 PM
Thank you!
Karen
June 5, 2021 at 4:42 AM
My eyes & heart are filled with tears & the sympathy of understanding after reading your loving memorial to your dad. I lost my Dad on Valentine's Day 2008 at the spry age of 90. I can truthfully say not a day goes by that I don't miss him & think of him or want to tell or ask him something. The price of great love is the vastness of the grief after loss. An entire lifetime of memories of the little things become the important cherished things once your memories become your only hugs. I send my deepest sympathy!
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:36 PM
Thank you so much for your kind words. We appreciate them so much and are so sorry for your loss.
Joseph C. Hicks
June 5, 2021 at 8:49 AM
Greetings Fathers And Everyone, The Fruit Cakes Are Excellent! Question, Are Getting A Special Discount To Buy Fruit Cake Products For Father’s Day? Please Respond. Happy Father’s Day. Thank You. Sincerely, Joseph C. Hicks
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:18 PM
Thank you! You can see all our specials deals here, https://collinstreet.com/specials.
Terry
June 5, 2021 at 12:11 PM
Enjoyed your comments and pictures BUT I’d enjoy comments with the photos rather than ‘just’ a phot which the viewer ‘thinks’ was your dad. So many pictures that have limited meaning since most viewers don’t know what camera was being used, etc. Opportunities to interest a broader group when you list a German camera from the 50s. Best wishes, T
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:17 PM
Thank you for your tip, we appreciate you for sharing this with us.
Suzanne Fluker
June 5, 2021 at 12:12 PM
Beautifully written Hayden...such a nice tribute to your Dad!
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:16 PM
Thank you so much!
Kathy C Wooten
June 5, 2021 at 1:41 PM
Beautiful! Happy Father's Day!
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:16 PM
Thank you!
Sonia G
June 5, 2021 at 4:00 PM
Thanks for sharing your heartwarming tribute. A reader will surely think back to their own father and remember so many good things.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:15 PM
Thank you so much for your kind words.
Debbie
June 5, 2021 at 4:32 PM
I just lost my dad in April and have been dreading this first Father’s Day without him. I agree with everything you said about dads. I was blessed with a good one, too, and miss him more than words can tell.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:14 PM
We are so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Liz Russell
June 5, 2021 at 4:34 PM
What a loving and beautiful commentary on your father. My Dad passed away not long after my 13th birthday, but what he taught me in those 13 years sounds so much like what your father passed on to you. It is never easy to lose a loved one and my thoughts are with you. May you carry on all of the attributes of your Father.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:10 PM
Thank you for your kind words.
Lawrence Cumley
June 6, 2021 at 9:53 AM
Well said. Thanks for sharing.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:09 PM
Thank you!
Cynthia Rodriguez
June 6, 2021 at 6:44 PM
Thank you for sharing those heartfelt words about your father. He obviously did a great job building his business while being a 24/7 father. God bless all the dads, here and gone, who nurture and provide strength for their families.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:09 PM
Thank you, Cynthia! We sure do appreciate all the dads.
Teresa King
June 6, 2021 at 8:03 PM
That was a beautiful tribute to John. He was all those things, and many more, to all of us who had the distinct pleasure of knowing him. The delight of my visits to the bakery, was the audience that John bestowed on me in his office. He always looked you directly in the eyes, while making you feel like the most important person in the world. He listened and offered sage advise when needed. He was a kind, generous, witty, delightful being. I can’t phantom how much you miss him daily. His departure was a great loss to his family, colleagues his friends. God Bless you Hayden for sharing these thoughts and memories❤️
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Collin Street Bakery
June 8, 2021 at 1:08 PM
He was an amazing man, we thank you so much for your kind words!
Debbie Watson
June 6, 2021 at 9:44 PM
Hayden this is priceless. Every single word about him is so true. I loved John as we all did. He was such a special man. I still miss him too. I feel very blessed to have known him in my life. And Hayden you really are very much like your Dad. Love Debbie
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Collin Street Bakery
June 7, 2021 at 4:06 PM
Thank you for your kind words, Debbie!
Leasa Cagle Armstrong
June 7, 2021 at 1:05 AM
So touching and correct! I just lost my dad on May 21, 2021 at the age of 95. People say,, you were so fortunate to have him for 95 years. True, but there is never a time you were ready for them to go! He worked for Oil City years ago, and delighted telling the story that he went in to the bakery to get cookies for he and my sister and mentioning that while at Oil City he helped make some of the machines used there. Someone then took him on a tour and he saw that some of the machines were still in use at that time! Definitely a sense of pride! Whoever gave him that tour will never know how much that meant to him! I am so thankful. Hayden, We are so fortunate to have had two of the good ones!
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Collin Street Bakery
June 7, 2021 at 4:05 PM
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! We are so sorry for your loss and appreciate all of your kind words.
Faye Karshner
June 7, 2021 at 6:39 AM
What a wonderful tribute to a Father and Special Man. Thank you for sharing.
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Collin Street Bakery
June 7, 2021 at 4:02 PM
We agree, thank you so much!
Rhonda Martin
June 10, 2021 at 11:31 AM
You were blessed to have such a wonderful father. I too was blessed to have had a father with that same demeanor. I miss him every day.
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